Adoption Planning

What Should I Expect?

Adoption planning is a very difficult journey for a birth parent. Once you have chosen to look at baby adoption as a possible solution for an unplanned pregnancy, you will face many emotions and possible obstacles that are placed in the way by your family, friends, and society in general. There are several milestones that a birth parent must pass in order to follow through with an adoption plan. Once a decision is made, as your adoption agency, we can help you decide if you want a closed or open adoption and we are there to support and help you all the way.

Adoption Plan Obstacles
In today’s society, it is more acceptable than in previous years for a woman to be a single mother. Because of these changes in society, at times, birth mothers of all ages are often pressured by their family, friends, and church to parent the child regardless of the situation. Throughout the adoption plan, you will face external and internal pressures. You need to keep in mind that you will be the one to deal with the long-term effects of either parenting or placing. You know your limits, desires, and goals for yourself. Decisions need to be based on what you feel is best for yourself and your child, not what others feel is best or what’s “expected” of you. If you decide that parenting is the best option, make this choice knowing that you may be raising the child on your own even when family and friends offer their support. Often time, offers that are made are not honored and you are put in a difficult situation as a parent.

Adoption Plan Milestones
A birth parent, after careful consideration and counsel, must pass several milestones during adoption planning. Following is a listing of the steps that you will go through and with which you will have to deal.

Looking at possible families for your baby adoption
Actually deciding to look into possible families for your child through photo resumes makes the adoption plan real. It’s a weird sensation to sit and look into the lives of families and decide which one is right for your baby. Coming face-to-face with a potential adoptive family can be very nerve-racking. Birth parents often report feeling nervous yet curious about actually talking to the families in person. With an open adoption, sometimes a birth parent may feel strong about one potential family but have their thoughts changed upon meeting them in person. Personality similarities and difference are apparent during the interview process and it comes quite apparent which family matches your needs and desires for the baby adoption. Birth parents always say “I just knew they were the right ones”.