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Adoption Disruption Indicators
(See also "Adoption
Disruption / Dissolution", "Indicators
of Successful Adoption")
Contact our A Child's Waiting Adoption Agency about
Adoption Disruption
There are several factors that can help adoptive families
predict the possibility of an adoption disruption.
Having a good understanding of your family and
the dynamics that it presents can help circumvent
any possible problems before a child comes home.
If your family has a characteristic that may contribute
to a possible adoption dissolution, it is important
to educate yourself and put every possible intervention
into place. Sometimes adoption disruptions are
preventable other times they are not. Whenever
possible, the adoptive families should do what they can to be
proactive.
Families dealing with or have one
or more of the following issues or areas of concern
may be faced with a possible adoption disruption
if the placement becomes unstable.
- Misinformation about the child’s special
needs
- Abuse, neglect, drug exposure, mental health
issues
- Unrealistic expectations
- Using the child’s response to them
as a parent as a gage for their parenting abilities
rather than understanding where the child came
from and giving him/her time to grieve and
adjust
- Poor education and training from the family
serving adoption agency
- Failing to ask for help or assess resources
- Believing that “Love is All They Need”
- Unresolved infertility Issues
- Adopting to “Save a Child” and
being disappointed when the child
“doesn’t appreciate what we have
done for them”
- Lack of a strong support system or extended
family not in support of the adoption
- Issues with other children in the home (parent
loyalty issues to birth children or other children
who have been in the home longer) The “new” child
is taking away from them
- Family with less flexibility and numerous “rules”
- Both adoptive parents are not equally parenting the
child or committed to the placement
- One or both of the parents are not willing
to compromise the type of lifestyle they had
before the new child came home
- Lack of entitlement to the child.
- Financial strain brought on by the addition
of a child to the home or sudden changes in
the household (loss of employment, moving to
a new home, etc.
- Splitting between the two adoptive parents or marital
problems arising from how to handle the child’s
special needs (one “sees” the problem
behaviors while the other does not)
- Family has poor communication and coping
skills
- Family has failed to define roles, attach,
and integrate as a family. This will only occur
when all parties are having positive interactions
and have similar coping skills. This plays
out in general family dynamics. Some children
will simply respond better in a different environment.
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